My Big Well-Built JAT Family !

A friend recommended me to watch a movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" saying that you would be able to relate to it ..and I couldnt agree more !
The movie is about a girl (name : Tula) who belongs to a greek family and how she is so conscious about them being so loud and proud of Greek Heritage.

She had 27 first cousins .. well I have 31 first cousins ..
and thats just first cousins .. I do not even have the number of my "close relatives" .. and interestingly everyone has to interfere in each other's business ... its like they have one nose for each family ..to poke .. they want to know what u are doing ..why ..when ..how .. what if .. how will ur uncle A\B\C feel about it .. and so on .. (seriously ..if nagging were a sport in Olympics .. they could have won a medal for it)

When she was young, her father educated her about their Greek history .. oh .. and I so remember how my dad (EVERYDAY) used to take us through our family tree (Q during breakfast: What is the name of your great-grandpa's dad's ..blah blah) .. the bravery of Jats in fight for independence... how Jats have contributed to society .. et all .. !!

Tula's dad once quoted in movie " There are two types of people in this world 1) Who are Greek and 2) Who just wish they were Greek" .. well .. not my dad but there are so many people in my community who put the above quote in following words
"लोड करके राईफल, जब जीप पे सवार होते.....बाऩध साफा जब गाबरू तयार होते.......देखती है दुनिया छत पर चढके.......और कहते ....""काश हम भी जाट होते......"" :P .. I know ..so cheesy !

The Greek family is proud that they are so "lively" .. and well .. everyone who knows Jats is very well aware of the fact that they have just two tones .. loud ..and louder ! On contrary, Jats feel that the rest of the world is plain boring and they are the only ones to know how to live life !
I remember .. when I was young how my dad always wanted me to be tough girl .. emotionally and physically .. under scorching sun he will make me walk for 8 kms (yes) .. and when I will ask him to take a rickshaw .. he will give me water and say "U r Jat girl .. dont be a touch-me-not girly" .. I was allowed to miss my Maths tution classes ..but never my sports !

Now .. the Greek dad wants his daughter to be married in Greek family .. strictly .. and even so my family ... they feel so disheartened when a Jat girl marries in an outside community ... like we are some endangered species .. !

However, at the end Tula finds the love that she has been missing in her life, from her family only ! That was the point in the movie which was a portrayal of my feelings ..

Yes they are a little weird in their own cute ways .. they are over-caring .. over-possesive .. but they are my "family" .. they are my ultimate support in this world .. I will not be ever able to reciprocate with the same love what they have given me so far .. they have big dreams for me .. they think about me all the time .. they take me for a 5 year kid .. and somehow I feel they will always do so ..
And the best thing .. "whatever" wrong I may do in life .. I am not at all afraid to go to them ..

I cannot even imagine what I would have been without them being this way ..they have made me true Jat .. and u know that is not too bad ... I am proud of what I am today .. so yes I am proud of being a Jat ! :P

A life .. so (less) envious ???

I envy ... I covet .. I desire ... whenever I take same time out and look around myself ... and see people cherish little joys of life ..
boys playing road side cricket..
kids feeding stray dogs and puppies..
guys riding bike in rain..
couples sharing chinese platter in restruant..
parents dropping\waiting for their children outside school ..


Humans are like that .. we try to change things around us and then long for what we lost ..
we all love old songs ... then why did the music change so drastically ..
we love to remember our school days .. whereas when in that age,we were in a rush to grow up .. go to college and then start earning ... ewww what were we thinking !!!

we dream to find someone special .. and then when we do .. we seek .."Carte Blanche" .. we want to get out of the relationships ... mould them in our own ways .. do we even know what is our way ??!?!?


So.. how many days can you count on your finger that are memorable .. when you can flash those moments through your eyes .. ??
You first day in school .. then in college .. first day away from home .. you fought for a friend .. you proposed to someone .. you made your parents proud .. first salary ..


But these are all occasions .. may be common to all ...


The truth is there are innumerable happy days of our life .. we just miss to bookmark them .. take them for granted ..


Everyone wants to change the way world is.Everyone wants to see the world happy.
But no one realises that.,To make this world a happy place to live...You have to change yourself - your heart… and not the world.


As we envy so many people for their happiness .. for their luck .. we should not forget that we oursleves are coveted by a large number of people around .. we need to identify our happy moments .. special friends .. close relationships and bookmark our smiles !!!

First .. know your objectives !!

During a visit to the mental asylum, a visitor asked the Director, "What arethe criteria that define a patient to be institutionalized?"
"Well," said the Director, "we fill up a bathtub, we offer a teaspoon, ateacup, and a bucket to the patient and ask the patient to empty thebathtub."
1. Would you use the spoon?
2. Would you use the teacup?
3. Would you use the bucket?

"Oh, I understand," said the visitor. "A normal person would choose the bucket as it is larger than the spoon.
"No," answered the Director. "A normal person would pull the drain plug"
He flunked..... .....

There is a difference between an objective and actions! Unless you understand your objective, you will be wasting your time in your actions.
Always know your objective first.

Calvin dose :

The fact that no one understands you doesn't mean you're an artist !!

You must have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At that time, your bucket was full.

Long ago in a small, far away village, there was place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors. A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house. He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often."

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door. When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see in the faces of the people you meet?

The ultimate inspiration is the .. DEADLINE !

I wanna meet people who do not believe in this title ! They must be peculiar .. might have long horns .. or elongated tail bones ... something different (no ..lets not talk about their will power, sincerity .. blah blah blah )

To me, DEADLINE is the inspiration.It adds thrill to my life... so either I am all laid back ..or I am hardly managing to breathe .. gasping for air ... because I think if you are not living on the edge, you are taking too much of space 8-) (how cool is that ! )

Cause-less !

Watched "Pursuit of Happyness" yesterday .. ! And I could watch it over and over again for that one scene about the moment when Chris was told that he got a permanent job at Dean Writer. You know what is magical about that moment ... his speechless-ness.. his tears .. his overwhelm ... his disbelief .. the shivering he portrays .. first thought to run and see his son .. THE HUG he gave to his son !

But it is his struggle through the movie that epitomizes the essence of that scene.. the fact that "HE EARNED IT" !

What makes me really sad is that I have never experienced it .. the feeling of "I earned it .. the hard way" (probably not on a high level .. will come back to alto level feel of it).

There could be two ugly possibilities to this : (1) I am contented in my life (2) I believe in yearning rather than earning.
Well .. I am definitely not contented .. or could be contented ever (can not even begin to talk about it)!

So .. it leaves me with the second option ( hmmm .. aloud self-realization). Yes .. I yearn .. a lot .. it seems nothing can ever quench my thirst for more in life. "More of what ? " ..one might ask.
Subject knowledge (varied from economics .. Psychology .. maths .. history), more of talents, more adventures, more friends, more ambitions, more ideas , more visions... and above all more hours in a day !

Whatever little I have achieved so far, I never had to be sedulous about it. But the melancholy is that I never wanted anything so bad to focus all nerves on it.
And so I am deprived of that part in life ..
when you are in a moment which you anticipated over a long period of time,
you get something which was so precious that you were even afraid to deserve it,
the dream which didnt let you sleep,
something which when accomplished, you are in despair that what are you now going to live for,
something which makes you so happy that you can not stand on your feet and you look around for your closest mate to hug and be silent for a while ...
yes, which doesnt makes you scream, but leaves you in zero-state !

There is no joy and no pain greater than what can be felt in that moment ... and you dont have to win gold medal in Olympics to experience it .. the aspiration has to be very personal.. very close to heart.. rather than something you want to achieve in your profession or business.

Look for that dream inside you ... does it thrills you when you think of those seconds in which you touch this dream ! Then go for it and live a life in that time period while you slog for it.

To think about other such magical moments, my mind lists Erin Brokovich (when they win the case), Cindrella Man( when he meets his wife after winning the match) , Saving Private Ryan ... Jo Jeeta Wohi Sikander (while Aamir practices for the big challenge) , Chak De (SRK ..when they win the world cup) ... !

These movies inspire me .. I realize that I am living a reason-less life!

Fears people have ...

I used to be a much more passionate person than I am now... passionate for life .. passion that was so contagious ..

I came in outer world... with million sparks in my eyes. I get sparkled when I meet new people... I take them in my comfort zone instantaneously ... I look forward to more of together times with them... get to know about their experiences of life and sharing mine ...

I can find a thousand positives in a person .. moreover I see the negatives as well with a positive perception ....I get ignited evrytime I figure out even one such positive that I lack .. and I yearn to imbibe it in myself !

As simple and philosiphical it may sound...it is not something which comes very natural to many people or is a common man's nature !

So.. thats about me .. but the people ! They have lost their passion, they have become numb, they have given up facing the hardships of life !
They have uncountable fears...
fear to trust that they will be betrayed...
fear for happiness that it will taken away....
fear to cry that no one will show up to console...
fear to love that it will die...
fear to be loved that they might not deserve it...
fear for challenges that they will fail...
they fear intimacy that they will exposed emotionally...
fear to play that they have grown up...
fear to scream that they will heard...
fear to laugh loud that people will envy...
fear to feel proud that they might step down one day...
FEAR TO BE ALONE THAT THEY MIGHT TALK TO THEMSELVES AND CONFESS THEIR FEARS !!!!

These people call themselves matured and grown ups ...they advise others to be like them based upon their experiences. Some of their wisdom words are "I have gone through a lot in life ..... I was never like what I am today, life teaches you ...... I do not believe in relationships, people change" .

But sometimes only advising is not enough for these people ... so they go ahead and prove their point. They prove that they fear for the right reason. They can not see an alive soul among themselves .. the zombies. They want to kill this soul. They take this person through what they have gone in their past which built their apprehensions. And they think they are trying to help out this person by showing the "realities" of life.
There is nothing aberrant for them when a trust breaks, a love is lost,a tear is shed, faith is shattered, because for them that is life, this is world !

I defy this ! I refuse to be defeated... I am still alive .. I will not stop trusting people and looking for bonding ..because this is what makes me different from animals, from zombies ..and I will not give up on my try to change these people and show them how to live !

True.. I have lost some proportion of my passion, they told me to be unattached.. to be on surface .. to fake .. well, I can not ! And I have too picked my share of lessons.. I know where I went wrong.

Don’t believe your doubts and never doubt your beliefs.